His Sexuality

Obviously there are a lot of things screaming for a woman's attention: the kids, work, finances, managing a home, emotional stress, exhaustion, sickness, and marital strife. Sex is often found on the bottom of the list, born out of affection. It may not even be on the list if her she feels angry, hurt, lonely, overworked, unsupported, uncared for, or abandoned by her husband.

However, for him, it is pure need: his brain, eyes, ears, and emotions become clouded without that release. Wifes want to have sex AFTER settling issues but there is a greater change of settling other issues if sex comes first.

Sex needs to be a priority regardless of how you feel or the conditions. A man can easily be made to feel insignificant, beaten down, discouraged, destroyed, or tempted in this area. BTW, if you don't want to, another woman will be happy to. This can be such a great area to build up and fulfill your hubby!

God's view: your body is your husbands; his body is yours. It's frequency depends on the other person's need except for prayer and fasting. Your body is meant to complete and comfort your husband.

The Kiddos

When kids are young and very dependable can be the most difficult time to engage in sex. Your tired, worn out and have to do it all over again the next day, you're desperate for sleep. His job is to be considerate if you can't handle it, but you need to be gentle and loving it about. Don't shut him down or agree with an attitude or sigh that makes him feel angry or guilty.

Instead, try this:

1. Say "Okay, give me 15 minutes."
2. Use that time to make yourself feel more attractive: Take a shower, or bath. Put on special perfume for just him. Comb your hair, wash your face, out on lip gloss and something special to play into his visual senses. 
3. Don't worry about your imperfections: he's not thinking about them.
4. During this time, pray for God to give you renewed energy, strength, vitality and a good attitude. 

He'll find it was worth the way, you'll both feel reconnected and sleep a hole lot better. You'll be happier and you're following God's will for your marriage. - This is a small investment of time that will bring great rewards in your marriage.

If the hubby is neglecting you there's probably something really serious going on. Something much deeper that he's dealing with. Pray for it to be revealed and how to solve it. Also, keep yourself healthy and attractive. Men are visual. It doesn't make them pigs, it's how it is.

Keep an eye on the calender and make sure you do it on the regular. Also, it's never to late to have sexual purity. If past experiences are keeping you or him from being fulfilled in this area pray to be released from this bondage and healed from the hurt and memories. 

     Dear Jesus, help me to love Nater in this way no matter what I'm feeling or my mood at the time. I know we don't struggle with this now, but once I start working or the kids come along I know it's going to get harder. Help me to be mindful and prayerful of this area now so we can have the best marriage possible; the one You intend for us to have. Help us to see and experience all that You intended sex in marriage to be. Amen.